3 Guilt Ridden Clues that Can Result in Body Fat
Imagine a mother named Sally in a retirement home. She’s continually eating her favorite food, whip cream smothered over chocolate ice cream. Her guilt ridden diet habits from childhood are still wreaking havoc on her life decades later. Sally had a mother with obsessive/compulsive behavior. What might be the generational inheritance of Sally in her active but undiagnosed eating disorder? How could this be abuse? See if you can recognize the abuse in the following examples.
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She’s in the trash finding the crumbed cookies she just bought and threw away hoping she could stop eating them. She can’t stop. This adult child is in the grip of unprocessed guilt that eats away at her core. She too had a mother with obsessive/compulsive behavior who was critical but in denial of her critical nature. Guilt was the generational inheritance and the bingeing behavior the acting out of that unprocessed guilt.
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The following story tells of a restricting mother repeating the cycle of obsessive/compulsive behaviors towards sugar laden and fattening foods down to the last crumb of a cookie. One extreme to another is still abusive and unbalanced with the generational inheritance of a possible uncontrollable eating disorder. The adult daughter is now a mother of two daughters six and eight years old. She tells them both how bad ice cream and refined sugar is for them. She does everything from making homemade birthday cakes with fruit as sweetening to never once going to McDonalds
There are predictable obsessive/compulsive behaviors that might occur in the daughters’ behaviors. What could happen when her daughters visit a friend’s house where there are cookies and candy? Or what do you think could happen when her daughters reach their teens with money in their pockets and they’re out with peers? One of two behaviors may happen to these daughters.
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They may feel guilt and restrict their food like their mother and develop extreme weight loss with an eating disorder.
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They may overeat from unprocessed guilt and become out of control with their food intake, add body fat, and develop an eating disorder.
Control, guilt, and frustration are driving forces in both of these examples. The power of those negative feelings can devastate the daughters’ mind/body/and spirit. Many women can relate to part of these stories. Because of the prevalence of eating disorders and obsessive/compulsive behavior I decided to take a survey sample of women of all ages. What I found verified that women are interested but have many misconceptions about eating disorders.
What’s unique about Dr. Fuller’s approach is the information is presented for objective awareness not for the purpose of blaming mothers. You can learn to use objective viewing to recognize the effects that a mother’s beliefs about food can have on her children and the generations to come. Remember if you are aware of the problem that is the first step in being able to change it.
Use the following obsessive/compulsive behavioral cycle list to determine where you might be. Then look at where you want to be and the steps to get there.
Where might you be on this Obsessive/Compulsive Behavioral Eating Cycle that Continues in Vicious Circles?
Note Where You Are:
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Occasional Binges
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Constant Snacking
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Increase in Food Quantity
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Onset of scattered Thinking
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Increasing Dependence on Food as Entertainment
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Sneak Eating
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Feelings of Guilt
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Unable to Discuss Problem
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Memory Lapses Increase
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Using Excuses to Cover Eating Excesses
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Decrease in Ability to Diet for Any Length of Time
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Persistent Remorse
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Grandiose & Aggressive Behavior
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Loss of Other Interests
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Efforts to Control Fail Repeatedly
Critical Phase
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Work & Money Problems
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Geographical Escapes Attempted
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Round the Clock Eating
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Isolation Begins
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Physical Deterioration & Added Body Fat
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Resentments Compound Loss of Ordinary Willpower
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Sexuality Issues Arise
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Decrease in Ability to Satisfy “Hunger”
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Non-Personhood Feelings Begin
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Onset of Lengthy Bingeing
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Garbage Eating
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Impaired Thinking
Chronic Phase
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Unable to Initiate Action
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Indefinable Fears
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Vague Spiritual Fears & Questions
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Obsession With Food
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Sexual Dysfunction Begins
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All Dieting Ideas Are Exhausted
Obsessive/Compulsive Behavior Eating Continues in Vicious Circles Here
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Complete Defeat Admitted
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Honest Desire for Help
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Learns Food Addiction is a Treatable Illness
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Told How Addiction Can be Arrested
Intervention Phase
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Volume Eating Stops
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Meets Former Food Addicts Who are Normal and Happy
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Isolation Ends
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Right Thinking Begins as Sugar and Flour Abstinence Takes Hold
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Spiritual Needs Questioned
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Physical Overhaul By Doctor
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Personal Appearance Changes
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Start Group Therapy
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Appreciation of Possibilities of New Way of Life
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Diminishing Fears & Anxieties
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Return to Self Acceptance
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Food Becomes Nourishment for the Body
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Desire to Run Away Ceases
Restoration Phase
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Realistic Thinking
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Adjustment to Family Needs
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Natural Rest & Sleep
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New Personal Interests Develop
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Family & Friends See Efforts
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Rebirth of Idealism
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New Circle of Non-Bingeing Friends
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Application of Real Values
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Personal Fact-Finding Begins
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Program of Recovery is Obvious in Work Place
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Increased Emotional Control
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Return of Healthy Sexuality
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Onset of New Hope
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Rationalizations End
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Contentment in Abstinence
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Group Therapy and Mutual Help Continue
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Increasing Tolerance of Others
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Self-Actuating Future & New Means of Life Begin
If you are caught in guilt, blame, or “poor me” look for follow up articles with tools that can help you release those negative feelings. These negative feelings can be processed and you can be free of this vicious cycling behavior that can lead to adding body fat or extreme weight loss. Or stop to my website article and sign up for my free e-mail newsletters for further help.